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Dear Sister, I could very well understand what you are going through. It is difficult to train but it is definitely possible to make them aware and understand of few important life aspects like, change in their physical and psychological aspects during their early adolescence and puberty . I would prescribe ‘ APPLE ‘ - Acceptance ( What they are with the difference ) - Patience (Have Positive Thoughts about your child and their future) - Practice through Perseverance (Understand the ways to make them learn) - Learn to Encourage and Motivate (Focus on Development) - Effective Training to build their Skills.( Focus to Discover & develop their Strength than spending more time on their weakness)

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• Mrs Preethi Sudhakar

While it may seem like a behavioral problem, you should consider and observe the following: How does he behave at school and with his friends during playtime? Did any significant event occur around the time he started exhibiting this behavior? (e.g., missing someone, the arrival of a new person, or any other major event) How does he sleep at night? Does he have sound sleep? If you have ruled out all these factors and confirmed that it’s a behavioral issue, you can: Establish a routine for him to go to the toilet every two to three hours. Stop giving liquids after 6 p.m. Compliment and reward him when he uses the toilet on his own. You can use a star chart where he earns a star for each correct behavior. Once he collects ten stars, he can redeem them for a reward, such as extra playtime with friends.

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• Aswin.k

As ur daughter is autism kid with sensory related issues ,facing difficulty with sound and light gradually desensitized her feeling • Increase her exposure to light. Use sunglasses or hats when outdoors to reduce the intensity, and slowly increase her exposure over time in controlled environments. This might help her get used to different light levels. • Introduce her to different sounds in a controlled environment. Use noise-canceling headphones or earplugs when in noisy places • For her verbal issue you can take her to occupational and speech therapy • As ur concern about she s feeling irritated going out , you can slowly train her mind through simple stories or telling exactly what she can except and do in various situations by continous training she will be use to it • Your fear about her puberty is valid : If possible, engage a therapist who specializes in working with children on the autism spectrum during adolescence. They can offer tailored strategies and support. With the right support and preparation, your daughter can navigate these changes more comfortably.

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• Thasleem

Lets clear certain physical conditions before moving into the issues - Few kids do have this problem till 10 years - However consult a urologist and take opinion is if any organic reasons present - If not either toilet training is not given properly or too much of controlling for toilet training he might have encountered. - Do not put pressure on him. Use token economy techniques. Whenever he expresses and use the toilet reward him - Ask him to urinate before going to bed. Do not give water to drink just before bed. - Set an alarm during day time to remind him to go for urine.

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• Dr Vijaya Banu

Hi …Though it seems like a behavioural problem, still you need to confirm and observe certain things such as, His behaviour in his school and also how he behaves with his friends while playing. Also think about, when he started behaving like this during that period has any significant thing happened? {perhaps he is missing someone or any new person’s arrival or any other major event that has taken place) How he sleeps during night? whether he has sound sleep or not? If you have cleared out all these things …if you confirmed it’s a behavioural issue. Make a routine to go to the toilet {once in two hours or three hours} Stop giving liquids after 6pm. Complimenting the child if he uses the toilet on his own. Put a star for each correct behaviour. You can tell he can redeem it for a gift ... {for ten stars he can play extra with his friends} By continuous support and help, this behaviour can be changed …if he is behaving because of things like attention seeking or problems in school or with some particular person you need to consult an expert.

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• Mrs Vimala Rani

Let's first rule out any physical conditions before addressing the issue: Some children may experience this problem until around 10 years old. However, consult a urologist to determine if there are any underlying organic reasons for this behavior. If no physical issues are found, it could be due to either improper toilet training or possibly too much pressure being placed on him during toilet training. Avoid putting pressure on him. Instead, try using token economy techniques. Whenever he expresses his need to use the toilet and does so correctly, reward him. Encourage him to urinate before going to bed and avoid giving him water just before bedtime. Set an alarm during the day to remind him to go to the bathroom.

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• Aswin.k

Before discussing this issue we might clear this: 1. Consult your child’s pediatrician to ensure there are no underlying medical conditions, such as urinary tract infections or other concerns. 2. While it’s understandable to feel frustrated, try to avoid getting angry or punishing him. This can create anxiety and make the issue worse. Instead, focus on positive reinforcement like (putting star in hand, clapping when he uses the toilet correctly, allowing him play little extra) 3. Encourage him to use the toilet at regular intervals, even if he says he doesn’t need to go. This can help prevent accidents and reinforce the habit of using the bathroom. 4. Consider using a reward chart where he earns a sticker or small reward for successfully using the toilet. Make it fun and engaging for him. 5. To solve bedwetting issue, try to reduce his liquid intake in the evening and make sure he uses the toilet right before going to bed. 6. Sometimes, behavioral regressions can be linked to emotional stress or changes in the child’s environment. Reflect on any recent changes that might be affecting him and address those if possible. 7. If he does it by accident, calmly involve him in the cleanup process (under supervision, of course). This helps him understand the consequences of his actions without feeling shamed. If the behavior is continuing, consider consulting with a child psychologist or a behavioral therapist who can provide specialized support and guidance to your son’s needs.)

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• Thasleem

Bedwetting and accidents in a 6-year-old can be challenging and frustrating, but it's essential to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Since your son was previously toilet-trained, this behavior might be a sign of an underlying issue. Consult your pediatrician to rule out any underlying medical conditions, such as urinary tract infections, constipation, or neurological issues. Some children experience accidents during developmental milestones or stress. Instead of scolding or showing anger, try Encouraging open conversation about his feelings and needs. Creating a visual reminder chart for bathroom visits. Praising successful uses of the toilet. Regular bathroom visits (e.g., after waking up, meals, and naps). - Gradually increasing fluid intake to help him learn to recognize his body's signals. Stay calm and matter-of-fact. - Encourage your son to help with cleanup. - Reiterate the importance of using the toilet. - Limit fluids before bedtime. - Encourage your son to use the bathroom right before bed. - Consider using protective gear like pull-ups or underwear. - Praise and reward progress, no matter how small. - Create a reward chart for successful days. - If accidents persist, consult a pediatrician or a child development specialist. Remember, patience and understanding are key. Avoid punishing or shaming your son, as this can create negative associations and worsen the issue.

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• sridevi

Hi …I can understand your situation. so before going ahead with your plan of having second child you should consider and know certain things. 1. First thing, talk to your husband about this in detail… (if it is an unanimous decision then you will get some support and help from your partner). 2. Both of you must then consult a doctor who is qualified enough to understand your son’s condition and needs and guide you to raise your son in a smooth manner. 3.Consult the experts to know the reason for your first son’s conditions. Whether its genetic or any other neuro problem. Then know from the experts what are the chances for this to continue for your next child. 4. You have to plan how to take care of your first child. {As it will require a lot of mental and moral support, after having the second child 5. If you have taken decision to continue with your planning of having child just check your financial condition. [Keep in mind: you have to spend for your first child also] 6. Since you have mentioned that you do not have any support, Think about how will you get the support during your pre-pregnancy and post pregnancy period. 7. Whether it’s a special child or regular both require proper care attention and love.SO think and analyse all options and consequences before deciding anything, All the best!

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• Mrs Vimala Rani

Consider the following before you make a decision - Is the problem is genetic (hereditary) in nature? If so consult the gynecologist for opinion. Even if not check the probability of second child developing the issue. - Lot of advanced technology available to check the child growth. - Consider your financial position in bringing up the second child.

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• Dr Vijaya Banu

It's understandable to feel concerned and confused about the possibility of having a second child, especially in your current situation. Please consider this before you take decision 1. Caring for a child with special needs can be emotionally and physically demanding. So you need to take care of your energy levels, mental health, and overall well-being. It's important that you feel ready and capable of adding another child to your family. 2. While you mentioned that you currently don't have support, talk to your husband and seek help and support from him and from your extended family. consider 3. If your son's condition has a genetic component, you may want to consider speaking with a genetic doctor. They can provide information about the likelihood of a second child having similar difficulties and discuss any available testing options. 4. Think about how a second child might impact your family dynamics, your ability to care for your first child, and your long-term goals. It might be helpful to discuss these concerns with your partner, if applicable, or a counselor. 5. There's no rush to make this decision. Take the time analyse about the pros and cons, gather information and then take right decision Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to take time to consider what’s best for you and your family.

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• Thasleem

It's understandable to feel concerned and confused about the possibility of having a second child, especially in your current situation. Please consider this before you take decision 1. Caring for a child with special needs can be emotionally and physically demanding. So you need to take care of your energy levels, mental health, and overall well-being. It's important that you feel ready and capable of adding another child to your family. 2. While you mentioned that you currently don't have support, talk to your husband and seek help and support from him and from your extended family. consider 3. If your son's condition has a genetic component, you may want to consider speaking with a genetic doctor. They can provide information about the likelihood of a second child having similar difficulties and discuss any available testing options. 4. Think about how a second child might impact your family dynamics, your ability to care for your first child, and your long-term goals. It might be helpful to discuss these concerns with your partner, if applicable, or a counselor. 5. There's no rush to make this decision. Take the time analyse about the pros and cons, gather information and then take right decision Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to take time to consider what’s best for you and your family.

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• Thasleem