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I am a 43 Years Old male. I am working in my present organization for the last 8 Years. I have been very hardworking, dedicated and have given my best at work. My Boss had been friendly to me, and appreciates me, but off late I understood that, he is only supporting the growth of few in my team, who are just 3 to 4 years in this office but actually is not promoting my growth in this organization. Those you reported to me 4 years back have now overtaken me with my Boss support. I have even expressed my regret to him, but he is playing politics and does favors discrimination. This is very good Organization, but because of my Boss policitics I feel like leaving this Organization, where there is no good growth for me compared to OTHERS. Now I also fear leaving the organization, which offers good benefits for its employees due to one person, who is blocking my growth . What Decision should I take now? I don’t want to fight and be aggressive with him as he is a person with Power and Authority. Please Guide me
Aug 23,2023
On a lighter note talk to your boss asking how you could improve yourself so that you have a career growth. If he says nothing to change, ask him then why there is no promotion etc. for you in an assertive way. No need to become aggressive. Otherwise ask him to shift you to some other department telling that you would like to learn new things. Even if you change the organization, there will be people like him. Appreciate him for his good qualities every time you come across so that in turn he will also recognize your potential. Every individual has some good qualities try to figure out that in your boss and appreciate. We pass on the positive energy to the opposite person through our thoughts and emotions.
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- Dr Vijaya Banu
It's a tough spot to be in, especially after dedicating years of hard work to your organization. • Try changing team before quitting your job ,talk to your boss about exploring and learning new things • If you haven’t already, consider having a frank but non-confrontational conversation with your boss. Express your desire for growth and ask for feedback on what you can do to advance. • Concentrate on projects or tasks that are highly visible and critical to the company’s success. By doing so, you can demonstrate your value directly to upper management, bypassing your boss’s potential bias. This might even lead to opportunities you hadn't anticipated. • Use this situation as an opportunity to build resilience and adaptability. • Instead of seeing this as purely a negative situation, try to reframe it as a learning experience. What can you learn from this about office politics, leadership, or personal growth? This perspective shift might reduce some of the stress and help you think more clearly about your options. • Give yourself a clear timeline for when you need to make a decision.
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- Thasleem
I am a 34 Years married Male, I have a 4 years old Daughter and a loving family. My Parents and Wife are very supportive. I met with a bike accident , 2 years ago, which changed my happy life all together. I was on bed for months together and from that stage I recovered somehow and now physically okay, but I now Fear for everything. I stopped travelling, I stop riding bike. I even Fear going out walking. I feel very anxious of everything, I am not ablet to communicate properly to any others and I now fear to going to JOB even. I was working earlier, but now I could not retain my earlier skill or learnings too. My family have noticed me talking alone, which I was not even aware. I don’t know Why I became like this? My parents are supporting our financial needs for the last 2 years and now my Wife says , she will go to work and ask me not to take stress of going to job. I have got a understanding family and they support me by all means, still I am unable to overcome my fears and lost of the time lost in so much negative thoughts. Is there a serious problem with my mental state of mind, should I go to a doctor ? Can I come out of this fear and lead a normal happy life? Please Help
Aug 23,2023
It is very common to feel anxious and fearful after the accident you met ,it is normal for people to behave this after post traumatic event. You can easy overcome from this with the help of counselors or professionals. This is post traumatic stress disorder(PTSD) you can get relief from this with mindfulness and relaxation techniques Practice breathing experiences and yoga which will calm our mind Be kind to yourself trust the process you can comeout easily Slowly expose yourself to the situation u scare for with the therapist and family help Take small steps its ok give time to yourself to recover from that fear and anxiety
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- Thasleem
I am a married Women, with 2 years Old Daughter. My Husband is 9 Years elder than me, and he had a Divorce in his 1st Marriage. My father died in my early age and I have an elder sister and My mother was a school teacher, we are a middle class family. I had completed my post-graduation and aspired to go abroad , 3 years ago. Through a distant relative, we got this alliance, initially I and my mother hesitated as he had a divorce and had 2 children (Two Sons, where he has taken custody of them). But He was very rich, had some properties and was doing many Business and was very Influential. My family and relatives convinced me that, I and my future will be very comfortable, and I will be very happy. Initially before marriage , I requested they should allow me to work, and I have to support my mother financially which was my only condition for which he accepted and said even , “ Your mother is like my mother, she can stay with us itself after marriage” . But everything changed after marrying him. He is an alcoholic, he abuses me physically and sexually and did not allow me to go for work or neither even provided money to run day to day expenses. He even stamped me on my stomach, when I was 7 months pregnant. He threatens me saying, If I try to leave the house, or doesn’t obey him , he might also go the extent of killing me without his conscious. I feel so trapped and my entire marriage life has become a threat to both me and my daughter. I got 2 times Job offers and was so desperate to go, but he didn’t allow. He is a very influential person and my sister and relatives only supports him and advices me to adjust. I want to come out of this and live a safe and peaceful life. Please advice me How this can happen in my present situation? I wanted to first feel safe from him, even if I move alone, But getting out of this house itself is now a Big Challenge...
Aug 23,2023
IM deeply sorry that your in extremely terrible ,horrible situation Please make sure you and your daughter are safe physically and emotionally • Protizise your safety first if you feel any danger pls try to contact the police or woman lifeline • Try getting authoritizes support for shelter • Getting out from toxic place will be really difficult gather all ur and ur daughter certificates, important things and id ‘s with you before getting out • Consider seeking legal advice to understand your rights and options. You may be able to obtain a restraining order against your husband, gain custody of your daughter, and receive financial support. Some organizations offer free legal services to women in abusive situations. • . Please remember that you deserve to live in peace and safety, and taking steps to protect yourself and your daughter is the right thing to do.
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- Thasleem
I am an unmarried male, 28 Yrs Old. I had moved from my home town and now I am staying in my maternal aunt's ( Mother's elder sister) house for the last 8 months for my job reasons. My Cousin Sister had a divorce and is staying with her parents ( My aunt & uncle) for the last 1 year. Ever since I started staying there, she became very friendly and slowly started to share her personal issues and about her problems in marriage. But recently , she was getting too close to me and I too got attracted to her. recently I was provoked when two of us were all alone at house and we had sex. After this incident, I started feeling guilty and feared about what this could lead to , while both of us are brother & sister? I slowly try avoiding her, and only go home , when my aunt or uncle is there or when they return from any work. Because of this my Cousin had started becoming angry and disappointed with me, and She keeps looking for a chance to get close to me, tries to seduce me, I am also afraid , what if she gets pregnant due to our earlier time intercourse. She doesn’t seem to worry or think about this at all. It would be odd, if I tell them I am going to rent a house and live separately, don't know what reason I would say my parents and Aunt... Kindly help me, how do I manage this situation, How can I change my cousin's mind ?
Aug 23,2023
This is very complicated issue, it is important to immediately clear this situation to avoid futher complication and emotional damage for both the families • You should talk to your cousin and explain about the fling that happened was that moments time thing and it does not have any base to continue. • Acknowledge that , as family members, it's important to maintain a respectful and appropriate relationship. Emphasize that you value her as family, but things cannot continue in this way. • Avoid any more situations where you might be alone together, you should consider moving out. • suggest taking a pregnancy test to her be sure nothing happened. • Be mindful of how you interact with her going forward. Avoid situations where you might be alone together and reinforce the boundaries you’ve set.
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- Thasleem