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I am an unmarried women 27 years Old. I am working as an analyst in a private limited company, where I met my X- Boyfriend. We liked each other, he proposed me and we were in a relationship for 3 years, where we also had physical intimacy. We had lot of misunderstanding and he was taking too much control on me, then he used to say we shall break -up and some how I managed to convince him every time. He assured and promised me, he will convince his parents for our marriage but 4 months back, he said marriage will be disastrous for both of us, as we keep getting into lot of fights, lose our happiness and said, we shall be good friends only. First I din’t accept, then I couldn’t stop talking with him and I too agreed to be just friends. Just one month before, I came to know that he is getting married and he too said, that was decided 2 months ago by both of their families, and he wishes not to hurt me by telling this. He said , he had disclosed about our friendship to his future partner and also showed me her photos, asked me to talk to her. I din’t know how to take this, react and handle this pain of mine. One point of time I feel, I wanted to run away to a lonely place, and stop all communications with him, But on other side, I could not accept or bear with his silence of not texting me, not answering my calls and being busy in his marriage works. I am not able to overcome his struggle of loneliness, separation and Break- Up, I too registered for myself in matrimony sites

Aug 23,2023


IM sorry that your going through really bad time and completely understandable you feel overwhelmed. • First be strong and brave to overcome this situation • Talk to your husband openly and frankly about your relationship and explain him his need and involvement in both financial and parental responsibilities • It might help to approach the conversation from a place of wanting to work together for the good of your family. • If you want to get separated talk to your parents honestly about feelings and situation. Explain why you're considering moving out and how their support could help you and your daughter. They might be more supportive if they fully understand the depth of your struggle. • If you're concerned about the care your daughter is receiving at home, look into alternative childcare options. • Continue focusing on your financial independence by saving as much as possible. This will give you more options, whether it’s moving out or ensuring you have enough for your daughter’s needs. You’re not alone in this, and there are resources and people who can help. Taking small steps towards improving your situation can lead to significant changes over time.)

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