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I am married since last 3 years and have a daughter , who is 1. 5 Yrs Old. I stay with my in-laws ( mother in law, father-in law and sister -in law) along with my husband. I was working during the time of marriage , and quit my job when I was 7 months pregnant due to my health reasons. I had not been treated with care or support by my in-laws but my husband never bothers it. After my daughter's birth, there was no physical or financial support from my husband or my in laws. My parents supported my financial needs even for daily expenses and baby needs. My Husband lost his job and was not concerned or focused in getting one, finally after lot of struggles , I decided to go to job to take care of my and my child's expenses and for the last 7 months, I am going to job, were I worked from home , and now for the last 2 months I am asked to work at office. I am facing lot of challenges, where I feel my mother -in law and my husband are not taking proper care of my child too. My mother in law, pampers my husband and do not insist him to be financially responsible. I feel miserable leaving my daughter to them, and earning for the sake of supporting few of family needs and my daughter needs. Many times I think of moving out of the house, but my parents are not supporting this decision of mine. I too fear , how I would be able to grow my child alone, but I feel so anxious, depressed , obsessed, frustrated, angry and miserable in the present life... What can I do????
on Aug 23,2023
Thasleem
I am sorry that your going through really bad time and completely understandable you feel overwhelmed. • First be strong and brave to overcome this situation • Talk to your husband openly and frankly about your relationship and explain him his need and involvement in both financial and parental responsibilities • It might help to approach the conversation from a place of wanting to work together for the good of your family. • If you want to get separated talk to your parents honestly about feelings and situation. Explain why you're considering moving out and how their support could help you and your daughter. They might be more supportive if they fully understand the depth of your struggle. • If you're concerned about the care your daughter is receiving at home, look into alternative childcare options. • Continue focusing on your financial independence by saving as much as possible. This will give you more options, whether it’s moving out or ensuring you have enough for your daughter’s needs. You’re not alone in this, and there are resources and people who can help. Taking small steps towards improving your situation can lead to significant changes over time.)
I am a married working women and I am 33 Years Old. ours was a love marriage and we had sex few times even before marriage. It's been 4 years since we are married, earlier we planned not to have a child for one year after marriage. It's been almost 3 years , that we are planning to have a baby, but I am unable to conceive, we consulted with doctor and the results are normal and doctor initially insisted us to try by natural means, but I am getting anxious every month, anticipating pregnancy test to be positive. Even when I think , I should not expect and be obsessed with this expectation, I am unable to control my obsession. Some time I also think of IV Treatments and my husband even advices me to be patient and sometimes he too gets upset with my obsession. What can I do?
on Aug 23,2023
Dr Vijaya Banu
The more you are anxious the more negative outcomes Do some simple relaxation techniques Do not engage in sex for the sake of having child. Enjoy the love making then automatically it happens Do not listen to the free advises given by friends and relatives Eat healthy (food rich in iron and folic acid rich food) Paste a picture of baby in your bedroom where you can see that everytime before you go to bed and while lying in the bed. Spend some quality time with your husband (do not talk about child)
Dr Kumar Babu
Fertilization is possible on the day of ovulation. If periods are regular it is on the 14th or 15th day. On that day body temperature will rise by 1/2 degree Celsius. If everyday before getting up from bed in the morning the body temperature is recorded, it can be found out. it is best to consult a Gynaecologist on this.
Thasleem
It's completely understandable to feel anxious and obsessed when trying to conceive, especially after a few years of trying. - Understand that it’s normal to feel what you’re feeling. Be gentle with yourself and allow space for your emotions without judgment. - Try to accept that some things are beyond your control. Focusing on what you can control, like your health, your relationship, and your emotional well-being, can help reduce feelings of helplessness. - Engage in hobbies, work, or activities that you enjoy. This can help divert your mind from constant thoughts about conceiving and provide a sense of fulfillment from other areas of life. - Take a short break from actively trying to conceive - Allow your mind and body to reset and forget the stress and anxiety - Engage in mindfulness techniques like meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga. These practices can help you stay present, reduce anxiety, and create a sense of calm. - Remember right thing will fall in right time
I have a son, who is 13 years Old. Every time he is on phone. He is very addicted to it and is also active in social media at his age. He watches any You tube videos, some times, changes the screen, when he knows I am watching him. He hasdownloaded so many apps which includes, games, photo editing, social media , and many more. I have insisted many times to spend time with me and his younger brother, but he does not cares or gives attention. He behaves very violently when I refuses not to give him my phone, He sometimes even hits me and throws tandrum His eating habits have also increased and he has put on a lot of weight. How do I mange to calm him, and get him out of his addictive behaviour ?
on Aug 23,2023
Thasleem
Phone Addiction in teenage is very common nowadays - Encourage your son to play outdoor games ,Reduce the screen time instead of totaling cutting it off - Put him in sport activity so that his screen will automatically reduce - Set the time limits like (no phone while eating ,only 30 mins after homework) - Encourage him to explore hobbies that don’t involve screens, such as drawing, reading, or playing a musical instrument. - Put parental control app in mobiles that does not allow long usage of phone Since because he behaves violent to you talk to him calmly and avoid escalating the situation. Firmly and calmly reinforce the rules you’ve set. If his violent behavior persists or escalates, consider seeking help from a counselor or therapist who specializes in adolescent behavior. For his eating habit don’t encourage junk food and give only home prepared food. Involve him in meal planning and preparation to make healthy eating more appealing. Be mindful of not using food as a reward or comfort, as this can reinforce unhealthy eating habits.) This situation may take time to improve, and it’s important to stay patient and consistent with the steps you take.
I have a Daughter , who is 10 Years Old with Special Needs. She is diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and have many sensory related issues like closing her eyes often, irresistible to sound, where she feels very irritated when taken out for family functions, other outdoor recreation where there is much light and moderate Sound. She is also very little verbal . We are concerned as how we could sensitize here to get used to normal outside light and sound. Also we fear on how to handle her if she acquires Puberty, Kindly Guide us ways to deal with her early adolescence and how to teach her to mange it ?
on Aug 23,2023
Mrs Preethi Sudhakar
Dear Sister, I could very well understand what you are going through. It is difficult to train but it is definitely possible to make them aware and understand of few important life aspects like, change in their physical and psychological aspects during their early adolescence and puberty . I would prescribe ‘ APPLE ‘ - Acceptance ( What they are with the difference ) - Patience (Have Positive Thoughts about your child and their future) - Practice through Perseverance (Understand the ways to make them learn) - Learn to Encourage and Motivate (Focus on Development) - Effective Training to build their Skills.( Focus to Discover & develop their Strength than spending more time on their weakness)
Aswin.k
While it may seem like a behavioral problem, you should consider and observe the following: How does he behave at school and with his friends during playtime? Did any significant event occur around the time he started exhibiting this behavior? (e.g., missing someone, the arrival of a new person, or any other major event) How does he sleep at night? Does he have sound sleep? If you have ruled out all these factors and confirmed that it’s a behavioral issue, you can: Establish a routine for him to go to the toilet every two to three hours. Stop giving liquids after 6 p.m. Compliment and reward him when he uses the toilet on his own. You can use a star chart where he earns a star for each correct behavior. Once he collects ten stars, he can redeem them for a reward, such as extra playtime with friends.
Thasleem
As ur daughter is autism kid with sensory related issues ,facing difficulty with sound and light gradually desensitized her feeling • Increase her exposure to light. Use sunglasses or hats when outdoors to reduce the intensity, and slowly increase her exposure over time in controlled environments. This might help her get used to different light levels. • Introduce her to different sounds in a controlled environment. Use noise-canceling headphones or earplugs when in noisy places • For her verbal issue you can take her to occupational and speech therapy • As ur concern about she s feeling irritated going out , you can slowly train her mind through simple stories or telling exactly what she can except and do in various situations by continous training she will be use to it • Your fear about her puberty is valid : If possible, engage a therapist who specializes in working with children on the autism spectrum during adolescence. They can offer tailored strategies and support. With the right support and preparation, your daughter can navigate these changes more comfortably.